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A large’ish morning post. Disjointed, because the Red Bull hasn’t kicked in yet.

A trillion thanks to stephanielay for showing these to me:



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Ted and I went to the jewelry studio last night to our engagement and wedding rings started. I was a nervous wreck, but in the end, it all went wonderfully. As much as I secretly make grabby hands at diamonds, my brain cannot justify the cost. Love shouldn’t have to ring up to the tune of three month’s salary. Anyway, so we’re having ours custom made by the utterly fucking fantastic people at Skinny Dog. Ted is getting a garnet set in white gold, and I chose a black diamond flanked by two small white diamonds (thank you, Meg, for the diamond advice!) set in antiqued red gold. One of the best parts of the experience for us… is that when the molds are completed, we get to cast each other’s rings. Its such a meaningful gesture. I found a compromise for myself. I love black diamonds, they’re reasonably priced, and both the black diamond and the white diamonds are free of the taint of conflict and blood. We’re not spending a ton of money, yet the symbolism (and the clear conscience!) is worth a million fucking bucks to me.

Did I mention that I love the guys at Skinny Dog?

Some examples of their work:

Wow, I just totally pic-spammed you. Sorry!

Scott and Jen at Skinny Dog are amazing. Honestly, the images on the web site don’t do their work justice. They do all the fancypants jewelry designs for Disney, including the original jewelry designs for the Pirates of the Caribbean movies. A million thanks to Scott and Jen, and to Clay over at Studio City Tattoo (arr, matey!) for introducing us!

The rings should be ready in about a month. I’ll post pics of the engagement ring when its finished, and I’ll post pics of the wedding rings after the wedding. ;)

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Something creepy happened to me a few days ago. In a reply to one of my LJ posts, I get the following:

Hey. I don't suppose you could be prevailed upon to make your userinfo display your friends-of list could you? I'm currently interested in studying what kinds of rates of return serial adders get, and I'm assuming you've been doing that, as its very rare for anyone but a serial adder to have as many friends as you do. If not, sorry for the miscategorization. Anyway your livejournal is of particular interest as it is a rare continuously updated serial adder and one of very few that I've been able to find that has been active within a year.

Also if you (or someone else who happens across this comment) know of any other serial adders I would be pleased if you would point them out to me.

I do nerdy things like this with the information.

I haven’t a clue what a serial adder is, so I ask. I get this reply:

Serial Adding: Friending people with the main purpose of thereby causing them to friend you back.

Seeing as you already have three more friends than you did yesterday, if you aren't, you must be meeting people at a really astounding rate. Not that serial adding is necessarily a bad thing - I'm hoping you are, because thats what I'm trying to study at the moment. Either way your rate of friend-growth is unprecedented and I am extremely curious to see your friends-of list to complete the picture.

What irritated me is that this person, while doing this research, --

A. is hawking my friends list – which gives me the heebies
B. is asking for my f-list info under the guise of research, but hasn’t bothered to even read my LJ info page

This person also added me to the friends list of their mock account, emo_snal, obviously just to see if I’d add back. Am I the only one that thinks its offensive that someone would create a bogus account full of drivel just for the sake of experiment? It strikes me as deceptive. I mean, I post a lot of drivel, myself, but at least its real drivel. ;)

The whole thing rubs me the wrong way, and I don’t feel that I need to justify my account or my self to a complete stranger. Maybe I’m old and don’t “get” the interweb, but why the fuck would someone make an account just to collect the names of people that they don’t know, even in passing? I get a lot of weird adds on MySpace (not really at all on LJ), and the weird ones are inevitably bogus accounts set up – not by friendcatchers – but by fucking shitbag spammers. So I guess that my attitude towards this whole concept is likely sour because of that. I also secretly hate MySpace, but that’s a different story altogether. I assume that the people that add me on LJ are customers, people I know from LJ comms (usually BPAL ones) or the forum, or people that I’ve met at will call or other events. Personally, I think that given the fact that I do, admittedly, meet a lot of people whose RL names I probably can’t match immediately to their LJ names, it would be rude of me not to add someone back if they add me… unless, of course, they have shady intentions towards me or towards the shop. It sucks, but it has happened.

I’ve had people watch my account for weird reasons in the past, but I dunno… being asked for information under a weird pretense like this just makes me feel all gross. If I want to sit under a petrie dish, I’ll sign up for a clinical trial at USC Medical. I’m certainly not going to subject my friends to this sort of bizarre scrutiny.

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In other news, I suck at bowling. We’re trying to get a team together for this year’s Punk Rock Bowling Tourney in Vegas. Hopefully I can get my game above FORTY before then.

Did I mention that I had never bowled until last week?

All of this bowling stuff is likely a thinly-veiled excuse for me to buy a kickass, tacky bowling ball. I found two that I love… one is leopard print, the other is an 8-ball. No one can ever accuse me of good taste.

Aaaaaand… no more writing for me. I’m picking up Brian and Jacquelynn’s dog, and we’re going to work.

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No harm, no foul. =)


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Jun. 6th, 2007 05:35 pm (UTC)
I love that fleur de lis ring - garnets and silver are one of my favorite combinations. I hope you'll post pics of your rings once you are married - they sound like they are going to be beautiful :)
Jun. 6th, 2007 05:39 pm (UTC)
I certainly will! =D

I have their pirate ring from the Skulls With Hats series. It is beyond fantastic. God damn, I love these guys.
Jun. 6th, 2007 05:36 pm (UTC)
Am I correct in assuming most of your friends on your flist were only added after they added you first? If so, I would just explain that to the guy, that people find you and not vice versa because of your online business, and therefore you don't fit the profile he is looking for for his study.

I don't get serial adders either. It takes all kinds...
Jun. 6th, 2007 05:38 pm (UTC)
That's true, but the whole thing still just... weirds me out, BFF. =/

Btw, did you get my last email, or did it vanish into the abyss? =D
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Jun. 6th, 2007 05:36 pm (UTC)
Wow! Someone's feeling talkative today! :)

First, good job on the conflict-free diamond. That makes me really happy. And wow, that jewelry is very cool. Good choice! I hope you'll post a pic of your rings once you get them, although I realize that's kind of a personal thing to do.

And um...yeah, that dude is weird. He sounds like a complete dipshit.

I always bowl better when I'm drunk (and play darts better drunk, too). Just a tip in case you want to give it a shot.
Jun. 6th, 2007 05:40 pm (UTC)
I got up way too early iz the thing. I get all babbly in the morning!

I'll totally post pics. It is a little personal, but hell... I've been waiting nine years for this wedding. I can't help but crow about every little bit of it!

I think people would be scared of me playing darts when I'm drunk. My aim is sketchy at best even when I'm sober. ;)
Jun. 6th, 2007 05:41 pm (UTC)
That is really freekin weird.
Jun. 6th, 2007 05:42 pm (UTC)
Cree-pee. =P
Jun. 6th, 2007 05:43 pm (UTC)
Personally, I think that given the fact that I do, admittedly, meet a lot of people whose RL names I probably can’t match immediately to their LJ names, it would be rude of me not to add someone back if they add me… unless, of course, they have shady intentions towards me or towards the shop. It sucks, but it has happened.

I have a different feeling on this. On LJ, "friending" doesn't have to be mutual, like it is on MySpace. My personal "friends of" list outnumbers my "friends" list. I have a whole other tangent on why I think this "friends" business should be changed to "reads" and "read by", but that's a side thing. I don't always friend back on LJ. And it's almost never personal.

My time is limited. I cannot keep up with a 300+ person friendslist. Of those, some people have little in common with me and post only quizzes, memes, or sometimes even foreign language (or butchered English). Those aren't journals that I want to wade through on a daily basis as I look for posts that are interesting to me.

Other times, people get taken off my friendslist when our interests diverge, or I get too busy and have to cut down. I don't want to have to manage reading filters, so that's the way it goes. It's not always a value judgement, and I would never be rude to a non-"friend" who isn't skeezy. But on the other hand, my journal is my space and my life is busy, so I don't feel obligated to add back very often.

Whatever works for you, though. I understand twinges of guilt, and hope that you find an acceptable way to balance it all for yourself.
Jun. 6th, 2007 05:44 pm (UTC)
I'm a Pisces that was raised Judeo-Catholic. Guilt is hard-wired into my DNA. ;)
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Jun. 6th, 2007 05:50 pm (UTC)
Wow, those rings sound amazing and beautiful. I love that you get to cast each other's rings. I've cast a few things before and I love the process, but I can't imagine how special it would be to be able to cast those rings. I'd love to see pictures afterwards.

I would have been bothered and creeped out by that guy. He seemed to have a lot to say about you and your journal. Creepy. You should tell him where to go. ;)

Buying a bowling ball is great fun, even if you can't bowl very well. As for me, I've never been able to figure out if I suck more at bowling or pool. Oy.

Jun. 6th, 2007 11:51 pm (UTC)
...After digging through Skinny Dog's site I am thoroughly impressed. This all makes me wish that I had been aware of conflict and blood diamonds at the time I got married. I would have chosen amethyst and either a black or white stone accent. But then I realize that, really, back when I got married I was just lucky to have escaped the clutches of Utah and Mormonism. =/
Jun. 6th, 2007 05:53 pm (UTC)
Your rings sound lovely! Can't wait to see the pics when they are finished. Very cool that they let you cast them. What a wonderful idea.
I think my S.O. and I will be choosing rings in the next six months and I'm all a-dither. So many choices! I'm thinking I might go with an emerald.
Jun. 6th, 2007 06:01 pm (UTC)
I can't wait to see your rings, they sound beautiful! And original...although I expect no less from you ;) I'm always happy when I see people getting something different from the norm for wedding rings. I personally have to side with Ted, as I want a garnet for my engagement ring.

Also: that guy sounds like a creep. Maybe he IS doing research, maybe not, but he's still a creep. I'd be annoyed AND offended. I'm not sure if you should block his username or not.

Oh and I not-so-secretly hate myspace. I don't get it. I just, don't, get it.
Jun. 6th, 2007 06:03 pm (UTC)
Man, now you're making me get "want to get married!" fever. Everyone around me is, and we know we want to just not now...and it's driving me nuts! :D
Jun. 6th, 2007 06:07 pm (UTC)
Your rings sound gorgeous! *envies* I've been married for almost 2 years and I still haven't found a ring that I love.
Jun. 6th, 2007 06:08 pm (UTC)
I think the main "offense" comes from when you are doing your business out of a heartfelt sincerity, and then you hear things being regurgitated through a cold filter of "jargon"... just the facts and figures ma'am.

I understand why it would have irked you. I've gotten that kind of thing before in other ways, and it just sets you off how people can be so utterly lacking in the genuine feelings department.

But *the rings* oh my! You found the perfect people to make them! I chose a black star sapphire for my ring because it's a 9 on the MOHS scale, so practically as enduring as a diamond, and I love the romance of feeling like I'm gazing into a night sky when I look at it...

We need to talk gowns sometime :)
Jun. 6th, 2007 06:15 pm (UTC)
I am having a huge *squee!* moment over you and Ted's rings (which reminds me that I owe your lovely man a thank-you note that I haven't written yet. Bad Becca; no cookie!) I'm drooling over the rest of the jewelry as well, and you are welcome to pic-spam me like this anytime you want. ;)

I agree with you about the symbolism; I'm going to be starting a three ring project in the next couple of weeks. My Grad Student didn't want to farm this particular job out, since I'm perfectly capable. I just need to get started on molds and get a cutter going on the stones. (I love old Edwardian and Art Deco jewelry, but I don't love the price tag that goes along with an Asscher cut diamond, Grad Student decided that the was uncomfortable with CZ, and the market for lab-grown high temperature / high pressure and chemical vapor deposited diamonds is still pretty slim. So I'm using a white sapphire as the center stone and green tsavorite garnet as the accents on either side.)

So far as Mr. Research Project goes ...shudder. The guy is clearly off base here. Yes, Virginia; there really are people who have this many connections, even if they're kind of tenuous ones. You may be "old and don't get the internet", but I don't get it either.

And you found a leopard print bowlwing ball! Dude! Even if your game doesn't improve, you'll look cool at the lanes!

*snorgles Brian and Jacquelynn's puppy*
Jun. 6th, 2007 06:15 pm (UTC)
That whole serial-adding thing just seems sketchy. Seriously.

Also, I vote leopard print bowling ball!
Jun. 6th, 2007 06:17 pm (UTC)
daymn they do amazing work!
Jun. 6th, 2007 06:30 pm (UTC)
Wow! Loving that jewelry, especially the idea that you two get to cast each others rings! That is SO cool! =D

I think the social experiment person is beyond odd, and would honestly find myspace a better place to go nutty over "serial adders." Truly that's rather creepy in my book. Then again, I do stuff with skulls, fur, etc etc so who am I to talk about creepy? (For the record I was all thrilled that you added me back to your LJ, since I enjoy your views and thoughts and think you're a cool person beyond the nifty stuff you create and sell).

I second that leopard print bowling ball!! Leopard print for the win!

Jun. 6th, 2007 06:54 pm (UTC)
Skulls with hats!

Skinny Dog has some amazing things... the Tiki line? Outstanding.

Also, I don't know if you saw this in an earlier comment, but I feel the urge to knit something for you for your wedding. I have some ideas, but I want your imput too. I'll send an email later, once I've collected my thoughts. :)

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